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It is time to end a relationship when:
- Your pet bites him and you don’t feel sorry at all
- When you are invited to events and he can’t come, you know you will have a better time
- You both think a third person is needed to spice of the relationship but deep down, you just want the third person for yourself
- You start checking out online dating sites “just for fun”
- You keep wondering what it would be like to date his best friend, co-worker or even his sister
- When his name comes up on the caller ID, you send it to voice mail with an eye roll
- You would rather sleep alone than with him
- You prefer him not to speak, at all, when you are together because his voice just annoys you
- When people ask if you have a boyfriend, you hesitiate on the answer based on how cute they are
- You can’t remember when the last time you had sex was and that is a good thing
- You are just not happy anymore
With all humor aside, the last one is the best way to tell. Are you happy? That is what is most important. Your relationship should make you smile and make you feel like a better person. Relationships are work and not all fun and games BUT you should be happy each day with your relationship.
You will be the hardest to convince sometimes when it is time to end it. I know I become so comfortable with having them in my life that I don’t see that I have lost myself or don’t realize I’m unhappy.
Trust yourself. You will not need to make a list, ask friends, or dwell on it for months. You are the only and best judge if this relationship just isn’t right for you.
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GaryJ
on 21 Jun 2008 at 10:05 am #
I guess it depends on how long you have been togther and if you were in love or lust.
Some people turn a one night stand into a relationship, then they hurt each other.
Usually a long lasting relationship, doesn’t begin with a booty call.
A realationship takes time to cultivate, take your time to know each other, sex is a part of the realationship not the only thing.
Also, sometimes the relationship gets stale, because of the daily grind of life.
I work the zombe shift (4:00pm to 4:00am) your not always ready for fun.
When your together a while and it gets boring, start dating each other again or shedule your sex time.
Basically communicate with each other.
In this day of Gay marriage, marriage is forever not a tax credit.
BTW: Chuck & I have been together for almost 30 years, I still get turned on when I see him and he does like wise. We’re not as quick as we use to be, but we enjoy it!
A relationship take time…
Walter Benjamin Ortiz-Nieves
on 22 Jun 2008 at 9:00 pm #
I could not agree with you more with this blog about relationships. I personally think, when someone is mature enough to realize that there just not happy in the current relationship-they would just end it right away. It makes no since going through all those unnecessary waste of actions, or thoughts listed above in dragging the relationship in enduring unhappiness for both involved. That of course would also avoid the situation of misleading the other. Just move on! And who knows both parties in the relationship might end up becoming good friends since the mature person had the courage enough to nip it in the butt!
Michael
on 22 Jun 2008 at 9:27 pm #
Walter
You are so right. Action is so important in life. We need to have forward movement or we are just stuck in life and not getting what we want but settling for what we have.
Steve
on 23 Jun 2008 at 11:09 am #
You’re about a week and a half late on this one for me. It’s all true, though. It usually won’t get any better, and it makes things worse to just sit and hope it will.
Michael
on 23 Jun 2008 at 11:47 am #
Steve
It is so true. It is like pulling a band aid off. It is just faster and easier to do it all at once.
Anand Dhillon
on 03 Jul 2008 at 11:57 am #
I think we often know when it’s time to end a relationship – the problem is that we are often stopped by fear. But it is only through overcoming this fear that we can move on and experience growth.