Justin loves to make promises to me. He tells me if we do something, or he gets something that this will happen.

After I agree and he receives what he wanted, the circumstances change. Mostly because he doesn’t always think everything through. But, it changes and he can not follow through on his promise.

It hurts me.

It hurts me because he made a promise to me and not fulfilling it now makes it a lie. A lie to get what you want. I would prefer he just didn’t make the promises in the first place so I wouldn’t be hurt and disappointed.

When he makes a promise and doesn’t follow through, it makes me not want to believe him next time. It breaks down the trust I have for him.

Of course he is not the only person who doesn’t follow through on their promises.

I do the same.

I promise myself I will do something next week but then I blow it off. I promise myself I will stick to my exercise routine, but I don’t. I promise myself I will stop eating chips and nacho cheese and then I break down and buy it. Once….twice….OK it was three times in one week.

This breaks down the trust I have in myself. This reduces the amount of times I believe in myself. Even though they maybe big, small or in-between, it doesn’t matter. Every one of these breaks the trust down about ourselves.

It hurts our self esteem.

It is better to be honest and upfront. It is better not to make a promise that you are not willing to keep. It is better for us to know, when we make a promise it is because we mean and without a doubt we will make it happen.

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