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I am an open book. I truly mean this. What you see is what you get with me and I am really do not hide any part of my life.
For a long time I struggled with being comfortable with myself. I would seek out other’s advice and opinion on what I should and shouldn’t do. As time went on, more and more people started giving me more and more advice, criticism, etc and I was buried underneath it all.
I looked at my life and realized it wasn’t me. I lost who I was and was poorly trying to be what everyone else wanted and it was not working. When I started to let it all go, people responded. People responded because I was unique, I was me.
There is a price you pay for being a open book…
I am very trusting and really allow myself to be out there. This means people can take advantage of me or simply hurt me and lose my trust. This doesn’t keep me from being trusting or cause me to close down. These are lessons learned and help me to keep growing and surrounding me with people who support and build me up.
I also had to let go of the ego. Not everyone was going to like me as me. I wouldn’t be able to try to win them over anymore. Besides, no matter how hard I tried, they were never going to like me because I just am not the person they are looking for. I am OK with that. There are many who do and that is now where I focus my energy.
The best part of being an open book is the fact that I am free. I can just be me and not worry about how to act or behave in any situation. I do not have to rethink what I am going to say or how to say something. I do not have to play other people’s games or office politics. I get to just be me.
With all of that said, you can always ask me questions but this post is directly for your questions. You can ask me anything you would like to know in the comments section and I will reply to you there. I want you to get to know me and have answers to the questions that maybe I can help with or share with you.
So go for it! I am an open book. What would you like to know?
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catherine
on 17 Jun 2009 at 8:55 pm #
1. Personal: could you see yourself as a Dad someday?
2. Political: any thoughts on why “gay rights,” just like “civil rights” in the 60s, has not yet hit that tipping point where the majority of people realize it is an individual rights issue, and they should friggin support it?
Rock on!
Michael
on 18 Jun 2009 at 2:43 pm #
Catherine,
I can see myself as a dad and I always wanted one kid. I do not think I will ever do it though. You never know…
Gay rights needs more support from the straight community. They can get married so it is not important to them. When we get enough people upset then it will move the cause. It is sad that more of them won’t help us out.
Barbara Silva
on 21 Jun 2009 at 8:20 pm #
In my years teaching, I have had more than one family of same sex parents raising little ones. I have had the privilege of knowing a couple of these families over a period of years and the kids are happy, well adjusted and, as it happens, straight. I think from what I have learned about you so far, that you would be a terrific dad and I hope it happens for you when the time is right.
David Miller
on 24 Jun 2009 at 10:13 pm #
How many relationships did you go through before settling into the one you are in now? How long was it before you really knew this one was worth staying in?
Michael
on 25 Jun 2009 at 9:58 am #
David,
That is a great question.
I am currently in my 3rd LTR.
I think you realize it is someone to stay with when you find out they are willing to put up with you.
That is really the truth. It is important to find someone who will deal with all your drama and then you hold on and do not let go. 
One of the main reasons I think this relationship is lasting as long as it is because we have a strong friendship. I think a real relationship is based on friendship. You need that to really survive. We have very common values and we both have the same goals for a relationship and our future together. You need to put all of that together.
Relationships are work but you need a strong foundation to truly make it work.