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A friend of mine was talking to me about a weird situation he is in right now.

He has been taking this great dance class every week. He enjoys the class for the fitness but also for all the fun he has learning the new dance routines. I know he loves this class because he mentions it a lot and he has yet to miss a session.

Currently the instructor has taken an interest in him beyond his dance moves. The instructor has decided to start flirting with him by giving him a nickname based on his penis. Yes, his penis. The instructor has never seen his penis but has assumed some details about it and gave him a nickname based on this.

My friend is in a relationship is not interested in the instructor what so ever. It is making him feel insecure because he feels the instructor is spending his time checking him out instead of simply teaching the class he enjoyed so much.

At this point and time, he is thinking of quitting the class because of the inappropriate behavior of the instructor. I, of course, encouraged him to confront the instructor but as I know, my friend is not best with confrontation.

Is it right for a person to make you feel so bad with their comments that you stop doing something you love?

It would be easy if life did put us in these situations but it happens. I think you just need to decide when it is time to speak up and take a stance and when it is just best to remove yourself from this situation.

I can not tell my friend what to do. He will have to trust himself and make the best choice. Whatever happens, I am here for my friend. PLUS I have a baseball bat which would love to have some contact with this instructor’s penis.

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JM on 06 Jun 2008 at 8:01 am #

That is really sad. These days there is really no constraint to harassment, it can come in a variety of forms. I hope your friend is able to communicate this and correct the situation. I would hate to see it interfere with his dancing. Have a great weekend Michael!

Michael on 06 Jun 2008 at 8:53 am #

Thanks for the support. It is sad that there are companies who still do not mention gay people being harrassed. I hope people realize all harrassment is bad. If you feel uncomfortable than it is wrong and you have a right to speak up and have it stopped.

You have a rocking weekend yourself!

JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You. on 06 Jun 2008 at 10:18 am #

Aww ok you see this is terrible I hate stuff like that. I changed gyms because I was made uncomfortable in my last one by 2 or 3 guys there. In retrospect I wish I handled it differently since running isn’t always the best choice but in this case I’m happy in my new gym.

I really hope the best for your friend. This isn’t fair to him

Michael on 06 Jun 2008 at 10:36 am #

Thank you for the support. He will appreciate it.

I sorry you went through a situation as well. Never good. I am glad it worked out though.

Maray on 07 Jun 2008 at 1:24 pm #

Haha, funny but sad if he is not into the instructor.
My question: Is that the only dance instructor in town? What is he doing there? Get out buddy!!!

Good luck to him

Ryan on 08 Jun 2008 at 11:46 pm #