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Writing my book has me doing a lot of self reflection on my life. I noticed more and more all the things I have gone through. It is amazing how quickly dark moments in life can become part of the past and you move on.
I guess it goes back to how you look at life. Most of us have heard you are either a survivor or a victim. I think you make this choice when these moments occur. We either allow it to rule our lives and keep us from ever moving on.
Or we struggle with it all, fight our way through and decide we made it out for the better. We have no choice but to survive. It is what keeps us going and allows us to live our lives.
We all share different life experiences and some of the same, here are some of mine:
I survived being teased in school
I survived being scared of the dark
I survived being afraid to be alone
I survived my heart being broken more than once
I survived coming out to the world but most of all to myself
I survived losing loved ones
I survived identity theft and the debit it incurred
I survived falling in love with someone who was not in love with me
I survived changing jobs for the better
I survived starting my own business
I survived the fear of falling in love again
I survived taking risks
I survived not listening to my self doubt
I survived ending a relationship which was bad for me
I survived betrayal from friends
I survived almost dying from a routine surgery
I survived working full time and getting two college degrees
I survived my overachiever drive
I survived from my insecurities
I survived from people’s judgements of me
I survived a time when I was afraid to be me
It can be amazing how much you go through in life but that is what life is about, tons of experiences and how you respond or react to them.
What things have you survived?
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jordan hishmoel
on 21 Jul 2008 at 6:29 am #
hi: i gonna say right again i have a saying, i consider it mine because help me to change my point of view, i always wake at 5 am and do some yoga and then meditation, then i see my agenda and start to feel very lazzy and say but this, but that, yo know always is abut for anything so I say, ok problem-solution which is the prblem today, wich the solution and make my life more confortible, so may be it helps to others to, and peole say i am a very hard and work all the time, but i obly my self to do and to give the best each time i can, ok that is all thanks i am a survivor, and i just forgot why? whel i don’t see bad things on my life may be that is why… thanks for pay atention
Michael
on 21 Jul 2008 at 7:20 am #
Jordan
Sounds like the best way to be survivor to me!
Brad
on 21 Jul 2008 at 10:49 am #
I survived an accident that left me with right sided paralysis. I still have the affects but I am doing EVERYTHING to try to rehab my arm.
I REFUSE to suffer from PLOM- Poor Little Ol ME!
I survived loosing several friends from AIDS!
I survived being homeless as a teen, and living in a treehouse.
I am a survivor!
-Brad
Michael
on 21 Jul 2008 at 10:58 am #
Brad,
You are a survivor! I really enjoy your comments. You share so much and I appreciate it!
Michelle
on 21 Jul 2008 at 11:16 am #
“The very greatest things – great thoughts, discoveries, inventions – have usually been nurtured in hardship, often pondered over in sorrow, and at length established with difficulty.”
Samuel Smiles
I am a survivor too.
Michael
on 21 Jul 2008 at 2:26 pm #
Michelle,
That is wonderful! And yes you are!
Patricia
on 21 Jul 2008 at 4:40 pm #
I stumbled on your Weblog today…isn’t it funny how meaningful that one “click” can be? Survival is an interesting topic. Like everyone, I am definitely a survivor, the list is long. I haven’t thought of it in these terms before, but as I read along…my mind began making its list. Reading along…was helpful too. Taking time to celebrate our accomplishments…to look for the joy…and increasing the positive thought processes like the squirrel painting…it brings with it power and simple joy. I am on this clicking journey because of a change I am facing in my career…a somewhat difficult change, to which I am trying to find inspiration. The study of being present, enjoying more awareness…more now, without worry has been extremely helpful as my mind is especially focused on “how will I survive this change—how will I face it”. Knowing that I have survived before…made me suddenly realized that I have after all faced difficulty and change before, and survival is likely…whatever awaits me.
Thank you for your inspiration!
Michael
on 21 Jul 2008 at 6:40 pm #
Patricia,
I am so glad you found me. I am so glad you see that you are a survivor. You are so right, if you have survived before; you will continue to survive throughout life. You choose to survive and that is most important!
Bishop
on 22 Jul 2008 at 7:05 am #
I survied my older brother being killed by terrorists in El Salvador
I survived the passing of my first husband after 13 years
I survived the passing of my only child when he was killed in a car accident
I survived and overcame the bitterness that followed so many tragedies in my lifetime
I survived on bump in the road after another
Do I feel sorry for myself? No – it made me who I am today. It has taught me the lessons I needed to find the strength within myself to help others.
I guess its true: “That which does not kill us only makes us stronger”
Michael
on 22 Jul 2008 at 7:12 am #
Bishop,
It is so true. It doesn’t kill us because we survive. We make our lives go on and do not allow ourselves to be held back.
We maybe a little damanged for the experience, but aren’t we all?