Life is full of ups and downs. We know we have to take all the good with all the bad.

Being single gives you so much freedom to do what you want but you miss out having a partner to attend your holiday party with. It is great to have all your family living in the same town as you but this means you will also have to spend more time at family get togethers and unexpected visits. 

Those are just a few examples of the good and bad. I am sure you can come up with tons examples with every simple part of your life. There is a good and a bad side to be seen. 

In the last week, I want you to think about all the hassles you had to deal with. 

• Spilling food on yourself
• Losing your keys
• Picking up cry cleaning
• Forgot your password to a website
• Spam emails
• Having a cold
• Bad customer service at a restaurant
• Rude person in line
• Waiting too long for an appointment

Think about all things that were a hassle to you. That you dreaded or drained you of energy. Both big and small. 

After you complete the list, make a list of all the things that uplifted you in the last week. 

• Having lunch with a friend
• Watching your favorite movie
• Getting a card from a family member
• Treating yourself to ice cream
• Finished a project before deadline
• Got a hug 
• Received praise
• Enjoyed a good TV show
• Laughed out loud

Again, this is your list. Create it with all the things that uplifted you. When you are done, add up all the items on each list and compare the numbers. Which one is larger?

If you notice the hassles were easy to list and/or there are more of them, it is time to take control. It would be easy to focus all your time in reducing the hassles in life BUT there will always be hassles. PLUS if you spend all your time focused on hassles (as you might be doing now) that is all you will see and remember. 

It is better to increase your uplifts. You know what makes you happier, makes you smile, makes you laugh and makes life more interesting. You do not need to wait for good things to happen to you, you need to make them happen in your life. 

Figure out what you can do to add more uplifts in your life to balance the hassles. I think in time you will even notice the hassles start to decline.

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