Do you ever forget who you are? I am not saying your name, or where you live but sometimes you get so caught up in living your life that you forget that some people see you as different.

Justin and I were walking in a shopping center to sit at a table to enjoy desserts we had just purchased. As we were walking past a huge table of young adult males at a restaurant on our way, a guy starts elbowing his friend and says, “Hey, Look. Two fags!”

I always try to make my mom proud by being friendly and always smiling. I am not afraid to talk to strangers and listen to their stories. I always treat people as people and try to get to know people’s names. I just feel I am a nice guy who just lives his life.

I forget sometimes that people judge me just on being gay and their judgement is negative. I didn’t say anything to the guys. I didn’t do anything to the guys but he still found it important to point out I was different from him in his view.

These situations always shock me when they happen. I never expect people to still act like this but it still happens. We are coming a long way but it is still just small steps.

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A friend of mine was talking to me about a weird situation he is in right now.

He has been taking this great dance class every week. He enjoys the class for the fitness but also for all the fun he has learning the new dance routines. I know he loves this class because he mentions it a lot and he has yet to miss a session.

Currently the instructor has taken an interest in him beyond his dance moves. The instructor has decided to start flirting with him by giving him a nickname based on his penis. Yes, his penis. The instructor has never seen his penis but has assumed some details about it and gave him a nickname based on this.

My friend is in a relationship is not interested in the instructor what so ever. It is making him feel insecure because he feels the instructor is spending his time checking him out instead of simply teaching the class he enjoyed so much.

At this point and time, he is thinking of quitting the class because of the inappropriate behavior of the instructor. I, of course, encouraged him to confront the instructor but as I know, my friend is not best with confrontation.

Is it right for a person to make you feel so bad with their comments that you stop doing something you love?

It would be easy if life did put us in these situations but it happens. I think you just need to decide when it is time to speak up and take a stance and when it is just best to remove yourself from this situation.

I can not tell my friend what to do. He will have to trust himself and make the best choice. Whatever happens, I am here for my friend. PLUS I have a baseball bat which would love to have some contact with this instructor’s penis.

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In the last month, I have been so surprised by the amount of people who admitted to me they do not use condoms. There were, of course, a list of excuses:

• My boyfriend doesn’t like condoms
• They make it feel less like love
• I am on the pill, I am fine
• But I love him…

But the worse excuse EVER is that I or He is embarrassed to buy condoms. Embarrassed to buy condoms? Why would you be embarrassed to buy them?

This is where you need to change your perspective on the idea of buying condoms. You are buying condoms because you are going to get laid! Why should you be ashamed? You need to walk up to the counter, set them down and smile big as the cashier rings them up.

Better yet, throw 2 boxes down there and let the cashier know it is going to be a busy weekend!

With all kidding aside, please be safe. There is nothing wrong with buying and using condoms. Don’t allow others to make you feel bad. They are just jealous cause they are not having sex like you!

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Have you been able to watch this new show yet? Yes I told you to free yourself from television addiction but as you can see, I am still watching.

 The show is about woman struggling with self image issues. They do not like their bodies and Carson (the host) helps them through the process of creating a move positive prospective.

It starts out with a discussion about their personal views on their body. Carson then shows them a video of people on the street giving feedback on a giant image of woman’s body shown on a building. Of course, the people give a more positive image of their bodies.

The woman are then shown a line up of woman and asked to place themselves in line base on where they fit. (They may line up in order of thigh size) This is always amazes the woman because they tend to place themselves at the end of the line when they truly are smaller than they think.

They are then taking for a day of tips and hints to improve their self image based on buying clothing that truly fits. They are then challgened to move out of their comfort zone by an activity. One was wearing a bathing suit in front of others at a pool.

At the end of the show, they are made over and take a professional photo shoot naked to feel more comfortable with their bodies.

This is a great example of how to improve self image through steps:

Step 1 - Learning what you currently think of yourself

Step 2 - Getting feedback on that self image to find a “true” self image

Step 3 - Working on ways to improve your current self image

Step 4 - Push yourself outside your comfort zone to grow and build confidence

Step 5 - Celebrate where you are and make the event with an achievement

So what can you do to Look Better Naked?

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