Dating can be so much fun. Regardless if you are single and just beginning dating someone or been in a relationship for years, you can still enjoy having some fun cheap planned dates to help you get the most out of your time together. It is all about creating fun experiences you and your date. Here are 8 Fun Cheap Date Ideas to give a chance:

• Sunrise or Sunset Date – Pick a spot where you can either watch the sunrise or watch the sunset. This could be in your backyard, at the beach, at a park or on top of a building. You ask your date to be ready and head out there with muffins and hot cocoa or Hot tea and cookies and just enjoy watching the sun’s daily adventure of appearing or disappearing.
• Volunteer – Find a fun event in your area where you both could volunteer for a few hours. It could be helping out a group, working an event, or even planting trees or cleaning up a beach. Not only do you feel great for giving back but a lot of times the event will give you cool matching t shirts!
• Midnight Snack – Meet your date at a late night dinner or invite them to your house for cookies and milk at midnight. It is just a fun little game where you enjoy spending time together at a random time at night. Make sure you take it serious and make it a date at midnight.
• The 7-11 Date – Give each other a budget ( $5 or $10 each) and go to 7-11 and buy whatever you want to plan your date. Maybe you get slushies and nachos. Maybe you get a coloring book and crayons. Do not count out crackers and spray cheese or just getting newspaper to read the comics in with 2 coffees.
• The Photo Date – Buy a disposable camera and plan your date to be a photo shoot. Either plan to be around ton and take funny pictures of each other or pick a theme where you want to take pictures of butterflies, cool graffiti or wonderful flowers. Once the camera is done, get coffee while you wait for them to be developed and have a good time reviewing your date. 
• Brunch on Bench –  As your date to meet you at your favorite bench in town. Maybe it is in the mall, park or on a college campus. Anywhere where you can talk, be together and enjoy the view. Pack two bagels or two bagel sandwiches and just enjoy the time together. 
• Tallest Building – Find a building in town with a nice view and meeting in the lobby with coffee. Then head up in the elevator and just enjoy the view and see all that you can. It is about time together with a different view of the world.
• Be a Kid Again – Why not go swinging or play Twister, or go to the Circus? Think about what you enjoyed as a kid and why can’t we do it again as a date? You will have a blast going back to being a kid and laughing until it hurts!

I hope this list gives you some fun ideas to create wonderful dates with your new love or the love you have been lucky to have for awhile. It is all about making life full of happy experiences!  

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Relationships are not like the movies. A movie tells us about the struggles it takes to find love. They work so hard to find each other but something causes them to miss each other or have a misunderstanding and they lose each other. Finally at the end, they find love and commitment and the movie ends…

In real life, that is when the work begins. It is not easy being with someone in a relationship. You have to learn to communicate, set goals, and put up with each other. It really comes down to making each other happy.

How do you make each other happy? I do not know, you have to ask them. It is not about assuming what makes them happy, it is about asking them and finding out.

I believe we work in our lives to always be happier. Relationships end because we are no longer happy in them. As long as we have conversations, as a couple, about what makes us happy, we should be able to grow and achieve happiness together. Our relationships will grow as well.

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This weekend I took myself out to a movie and lunch. Can you believe it?

Sometimes you need to take a time out and do something nice for yourself. By going out to the movie and lunch alone I was able to truly just be myself and have a lot of self reflection.

I took myself to Downtown Disney and saw Wall-E with a bunch of kids and then enjoyed lunch at a small asian restaurant. I also bought myself the cute umbrella I have wanted from the Cirque store. (I am a great date.)

I do recommend you go see Wall-E very cute movie about love as well as a nice social message. I was surprised Disney allowed this social message to be in their film. (I won’t ruin it) Many people parents in the audience were making negative comments about it. Of course these were parents who obviously suffered from this social disconnect.

It was also nice to have the time way because it reminded me how lucky I am to have Justin and all my family and friends in my life. Sure it was nice to have the time alone but I knew I was coming home to Justin. It is a lot easier to be alone in a world where couples rule when you know you will go home and be part of a couple again.

I hope if you are single or in a couple, you will take a few hours and take just yourself out on a date. Enjoy the time and treat yourself right!

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Songs can really get me thinking about life. I have found a new one recently and I thought it has been a long time since I saved a song with. It is a remake and it was in the Sex and the City movie. India Arie sings this version and I love it.

Take some time to listen to the lyrics:

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It is time to end a relationship when:

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Justin went away this weekend to visit his brother who was stationed in Florida for a few weeks. Justin came home Friday night, went to bed and left at 2am to head up to the Florida panhandle. He didn’t get back home until 11pm Sunday evening.

During this time alone I realized how much we do together. It was nice to have the downtime from him but at the same time I was missing him. He is not only my boyfriend but my best friend.

I have never met his brother and I did not go on the trip because his brother said he did not want to meet me, ever. Yes it was harsh but that is his reaction to knowing his brother is gay. Not everyone is open minded as they should be.

It is easy for me to say he is a jerk but I find it to be more than this. His brother is about 5’6″ and in the Navy. Being masculine is very important to the culture he is in right now. He works out all the time and insists on being bulked up. I wonder if he feels the way he does because he is picked on as being gay because of his height. I know that makes any sense but I never said closed minded straight guys were the smartest.

When Justin said good bye to his brother he leaned in for a hug but his brother said he doesn’t hug. Not even their dad and shook his hand instead.

His brother is quite lonely right now and I wonder if his brother is missing himself. Maybe he is struggling to keep of appearances because of where he works and deep down he would just like to be himself. Maybe he just needs a hug to break down those barriers. Regardless of what is underneath it all, I know his brother loves Justin a lot and there is more to the story than what he is saying.

Well Justin is back now and he brought me a Starbucks mug. (He always brings me a Starbucks mug from his travel or we get one on our trips. Easy souvenir that doesn’t take up a lot of space and is actually useable.) I told him he can’t leave again because I missed him. I also told him if he ever mentioned that I missed him to anyone else, I would have no choice but to kill him.

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At midnight, last night, I had “Sex” and it was GOOD! I have missed spending time with 4 of my favorite girls and it was great to see them again.

 Steph, Molly, Justin and I went to the midnight showing of Sex and the City: The Movie. Was it worth feeling so tired the next day? YES! Could I come up with thousands of ways to make it better? OF COURSE! Any true fan will want more and try to create it because we never want to let go. It was a great movie and I am glad to spend one more night with the girls.

The theme for the movie is love. It is true that when you are in love you will do things you never expected. Life changes when you are in love. You forgot about yourself and become a “we”.

Sometimes this “we” is more powerful than yourself alone and sometimes this “we” can cause you to lose the all important “me”. It is finding the balance that makes it work. I will not say it is easy to do so but it is just the ebb and flow of being in a relationship. If you are in love, you will make it work.

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In the last month, I have been so surprised by the amount of people who admitted to me they do not use condoms. There were, of course, a list of excuses:

• My boyfriend doesn’t like condoms
• They make it feel less like love
• I am on the pill, I am fine
• But I love him…

But the worse excuse EVER is that I or He is embarrassed to buy condoms. Embarrassed to buy condoms? Why would you be embarrassed to buy them?

This is where you need to change your perspective on the idea of buying condoms. You are buying condoms because you are going to get laid! Why should you be ashamed? You need to walk up to the counter, set them down and smile big as the cashier rings them up.

Better yet, throw 2 boxes down there and let the cashier know it is going to be a busy weekend!

With all kidding aside, please be safe. There is nothing wrong with buying and using condoms. Don’t allow others to make you feel bad. They are just jealous cause they are not having sex like you!

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One of my past relationships was going on 2 years when I ended it. I ended it because through the time together we just didn’t have the trust I felt a relationship should. Yes, it was me who was having the trust issues and he felt I was silly. He had a very hard time with me ending the relationship but I knew it was for the best.

It wasn’t until a few months later that I found out some of the reasons why my intuition was telling me to be careful. He was using my personal identity which he opened a 2 credit cards in my name, he completed a student loan application and signed me a co-signer, used one of my personal credit cards to make random purchases, and many more awful financial situations.

This not only cost me money, but time trying to correct this situation and emotional stress feeling so used and betrayed by someone who was my partner in life and welcomed into my family as I was in his. It took months to clean up the mess and to get my life back on track.

It would have been so easy for me to become bitter and hate life but I didn’t. Sure this was a horrible situation to be in but I learned. I also knew that I would get the money back, I knew I would mend my broken heart and I knew life would be better than it ever was.

And it did. I just had to believe in myself. Yes I was knocked on my ass but I got myself back up, wiped the dirt of and kept on moving towards my goals and my dreams. It wasn’t worth letting this experience keep me from living my life.

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A friend of mine was talking to me about her boyfriend. She mentioned how, jokingly, he always asks if his penis is bigger than her other boyfriends she dated. She thinks it is so funny because she really doesn’t remember what theirs were like. As she said, “A penis is a penis.” She honestly only remembers what her current boyfriend’s penis looks like.This got me thinking about how in relationships you compare your current boyfriend with your last relationships.

Justin and I have been together for almost 3 years. He will ask me how he “measures up” to my past relationships. He wants to know do we have more fun, do we laugh more, do we travel more, were they nicer, were they more affectionate, were they smarter, etc.

Of course it is Justin just wanting to learn more about my past but that is exactly what it is. The past. Regardless of how they were, it is not worth being compared to because it is not competition; it is no longer even an option. Those relationships ended for a reason and I am now in my current relationship. I have to see my current relationship as is and base its success on my own personal happiness and nothing more.

It is hard to live in the present and take things for what they are but the present is truly where life is lived. We learn from our past by not revisiting it but simply from the lessons that are already in our head helping guide us along the way.

So next time your current relationship partner asks you are they bigger? You just smile and say, “Of course, in more ways then you will ever know.”

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