After the great call on Thursday, I wanted to follow up with a few resources.

(If you were unable to make the call, you can still register to receive the recording.)

I talked about this great site to visit which can inspire your life list. It is called 43things

I also gave you a few prompts to get you started on your own life list. You can find them all on the recording BUT here is another resource I created to help you jump start your list.

The Life Life Guided Journal

There are TONS of prompts through out this book you can use to help you add even more to your list and get your mind pumping!! This is my gift to you all to start off the New Year!

If you ever need support on starting or moving forward with your life list, drop me a message.  I am here.

On my blog I share tons of tips and tools but also my own life list achievements. Take a look at these 4:

Aura Picture

Gator

Word in Dictionary

Childhood Dream Come True

There are many more all through the blog.

Again, thank you all to those on the call, those listening to the recording and those who just want to be living your life out loud!

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That is how I describe this picture of me with my dad. I posed like that because I thought it was fun and silly. I was sassy! 

People always ask me when did I know I was gay. I do not think there is a moment you know you are gay. I think there is only a moment when you accept you are gay. 

Growing up I always knew I was different. I remember in my first year of school that when the boys chased the girls to kiss them, it was always accepted that I was being chased with the girls. I remember playing house in school and I stayed home to cook and clean with my female classmates while the boys went to work to build things. 

I knew I saw and felt things differently than most of the kids. I didn’t know why but I just knew I did. What really was sad was there was no one to talk to about it. No examples to show me I was normal. 

My gifted teacher (who I did not care for) told my mom in my program review that she needed to get me to play sports to make more male friends to help me develop. I was doing well in all other areas but she thought this would really help me overall.

She wasn’t wanting me to learn to work well with a team or learn hand-eye coordination. She wanted me to be “normal” like the other boys so I would fit in. She was wanting me to fit more into the male gender role. She wanted me not to say my favorite color was purple. She didn’t want me to like Jem and Holograms. She didn’t want me to like art and music more than I did PE. 

I am sure she was only 24 years old and didn’t she know much about life by then. I am sure she had the best intentions but she wasn’t allowing me to be me. Instead she was judging me, as a child, and wanting me to fit the mold as so many other children did regardless if they were happy or not. 

My mom did not think it was necessary to sign me up for any sports groups.

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There was this guy I knew and he was so straight. 

He walked around like a man with a strut trying to pick up the ladies. He drank beer and not the light kind. He made sure it was always Bud. He knew all the stats on his favorite sports team and knew which season each sport played in. He even knew how to play football and could catch and throw the ball. 

He wasn’t afraid to kill bugs and he always knew how to fix a car or the lawnmower. He would go outside and enjoy cutting down trees and planting new plants. He knew how to get rid of crab grass and the garden snakes never made him scream. 

He would only handshake his male friends and he never cried once, EVER. He didn’t dress up for Halloween and he would never see a chick flick. He didn’t use body wash and only used 2 in 1 shampoo. He never trimmed body hair and couldn’t be bothered to moisturize. 

He was way too masculine and spoke with a VERY deep voice. He was tall and built from all his work in the gym. He liked girls a lot. He was always talking about their boobs or their butts. He didn’t listen to Britney Spears or Beyonce but he knew he would bang them. 

We never say a guy is too straight. It is never mentioned or talked about it but we are not afraid to say someone is too gay or something is too gay. 

Something to think about…

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An open letter to people of the United States:

Yes I’ve been in an awful mood since Wednesday. I know it bugged you when I didn’t join your boisterous, thrilling and optimistic conversations. And you probably noticed that I winced and shrugged when you went on about “change.”

Please remember this has been a week of change for me too.

•    The state of Florida supported Amendment 2, voting to outlaw domestic partnerships in a sweeping change to its constitution. Thousands of Florida couples, same-sex and not, are at risk of losing health care and pension benefits.

•    The state of Arkansas voted to prohibit unmarried couples (again, both same-sex and not) from serving as foster parents or adopting, essentially saying I am unfit to be a parent.

•    The progressive state of California voted by a wide margin to give more living space to chickens and pigs. They also voted to change the state constitution to reflect that my relationship of fourteen years does not have the same value as your marriage.   

You just have to remember for a moment I didn’t wake up to the same reality you did on Wednesday morning. And you’re gonna have to give me a couple more days.

Signed,

The guy in the cube next door, the guy handing you a Latte, the lady buying a house from you, the nurse holding your hand, the cop stopping traffic so you can cross the street…and your son.

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Take a moment to watch and think…

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From PlanetOut:

Proposition 2 seeks to affirm legal marriage status to male-female marriages only.  Moreover, the Proposition is so broadly worded, that it would likely – if passed – strike down any and all domestic partnership recognition in the state.  This would apply to DP benefits from government and private enterprise alike.  Ugly.  If you favor equal rights under the law – is No on 2.

These are three states, with three fights for marriage equality.  Take a moment to help in this fight, copy and paste the letter below and send to all your friends and family in these states to urge them to support marriage equality under the law.

Dear Friend:

This November 4th, we have a chance to affirm the equality of ALL people under the laws of our states.

Prop 102 in Arizona, Prop 8 in California and Prop 2 in Florida would deny gay people who love each other, live as families, pay taxes and seek to build their communities as healthy, caring and prosperous places to live, the right to marry. 

Join me November 4th at the voting booth and Vote NO on these propositions! And please send this to all your friends and family in these states urging them to vote NO as well.  

For more details paste this link into your browser. 

http://hottopics.gay.com/2008/10/marriage-equali.html

Thank you!

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Ellen once again stands up for what she believes in and show us another great example of living life out loud.

In this video, Ellen talks about Sarah Palin wanting to change the constitution to ban gay marriage.

Get out and VOTE!

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When Madonna was interviewed by Ryan SeaCrest she said, “Ryan, You are so gay you don’t even like boys.”

It is funny how guys who seem to be gay are quickly labeled and questioned. As if we really all need to know who they are sleeping with? Do we even care? But we insist on labeling people so we can put them in a box.

I was once at a club and a guy started talking to me. He mentioned at least 10 times how great it was that he was str8 acting. Finally, I couldn’t take it anymore and said, “You think you are str8 acting but you are doing a horrible job at it because you are already hitting on a gay guy.”

I have noticed how it is so important that we know if a guy is gay or not. If not, it is as if we do not know how to handle them. It is even worse when guys know who they are but they feel they must “act” a certain way to still be accepted.

Love is love.

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Whenever I am filling out forms and they ask me about caterogry I coach, most of the time I have to select alternative lifestyles to represent the gay and lesbian community. I always wonder what being gay is the alternative to.

By definition an alternative lifestyle is a lifestyle generally perceived to be outside the cultural norm.I assume by this that being gay is a lifestyle that is perceived as not being normal. Why am I considered abnormal because I am gay?

Lets be honest, being gay is probably the most normal part about me. There are tons of things I do that can be considered abnormal but being gay isn’t one of them. I love just like everyone else. I didn’t choose to be gay, I was just born this way. It is who I am.

When you start to think about it, don’t we all have parts of us that are abnormal? Isn’t that what makes us unique and different as people? In that case, wouldn’t that mean that being considered abnormal would actually be normal?

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