My friend Becky found out a close family friend received the news that she only has 2 weeks to live. She asked me if I was able to know when I would die, would I want to know? I said no. She said she wouldn’t want to know as well. So what would you do if you had only 2 weeks to live. Becky is hoping that she won’t just curl up in a ball and hide. I thought about it and wondered if I found out that I had a limited time left, what would I do? I know I would be shocked and disappointed. I would think about the things I could have done and people I would miss.Then it reminded me, we do only have a limited time here. We feel we will be here forever but we were all born with an expiration date. Hopefully it will be later than sooner but who knows when. Everyone knows I believe you need to live your life but how do you do that?You take the time to plan goals and create a life list. You show gratitude for everything you have including the people in your life. You laugh as loud as you want and love deeply. Make sure to spend all your time on things and people who enlighten and inspire you.Life is too short to wonder what if. You need to make the most of the time you have.What is one thing you could start doing today to start better living your life? Leave me a comment and let me know!

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Over this weekend, my friend Stephanie got in engaged. It is a wonderful story on how she met her fiance and the proposal couldn’t be better. It is great to see her glowing and enjoying the excitement around her engagement.

I know I have asked people this question many times, “How do you know if they are the ONE?” Friends have asked me this same question over the years. We would love someone with a crystal ball to tell us, “YES, they are the one!”

Once we knew that, we would get mad at all their flaws because we would know they were meant for us. We wouldn’t have silly fights with with them and ignore their calls for a day, because we knew they were the one. We would also not doubt our relationship or happiness because we would know, they were the one.

That just isn’t how it works. Relationships take a lot of work. It is about give and take. It is about communication and friendship. It is not about finding someone who youcan put up with their flaws, it is finding someone who knows your flaws and loves you anyway.

So how do you know if they are the one, you just do. If they are the one, they will be worth your commitment and time. You both will give yourselves to make it work because you have each other and that is all that matters.

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Last night I was able to cross an item off my life list, I got to see the Blue Man Group. My friend Robert decided it would be a great way to celebrate his birthday. I loved the idea and had a great time.

The Blue Man Group wasn’t what I expected but it was a fun show. There is a lot of audience interaction and the Blue Man are quite talented. I am glad I was able to see it finally.

 The show also has some social awareness element about our world. They talked about how we go to Internet coffee shops to sit inches from tons of people we never talk to while we communicate on laptops or phones to people who are not even there.

I thought it was a great issue to present in the show and really allow people to self reflect on their daily lives. I know it made me think.

Not only is it a Happy Birthday for Robert but it was a great time at Blue Man Group and another life list item crossed off!!

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Sunday I woke up in the early morning to head out to Disney to cheer on my friend Nick running the Disney Marathon for the second time. I know, you think after the first time he would have stopped and so did he.

Nick didn’t train as much as he did last time and he wasn’t really looking forward to running again. His plan had been to increase his time but that wasn’t going to happen because of his lack of training.

Last year he got very sick after the marathon due to the high humidity and dehydration. He wasn’t looking forward to being sick again and this was all weighing on him during his stay. Besides the fact the weather was showing thunderstorms all through the race.

But, Nick need something that changed everything. Instead of dwelling on all the bad stuff or trying to beat his time from last year, he committed to just finishing. He was doing it for fun and just was planning on finishing even if he had to take all day to do it.

Well, he did finish and he beat his time from last year. Could it have been his new perspective? Could it have been the cute sign I was waving when I cheered him on? Could it be his drive to beat Katie Holmes time? Who knows, but he finished and he got the medal.

Now the question is will I try the half marathon next year…

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I was talking to one of my friends who was excited about a date he was going on. It was a wonderful planned event and the guy seems great! We were talking about it and he said he was not hoping for anything so he was playing it by ear. I said that he is hot so he need not worry. He responded by saying, I am not hot. I am old, bald, gained weight, …

My friend was quick to fight my nice comment by what he saw as the truth or his insecure self saw as the truth. I know he truly believes what he said about himself but what he doesn’t know is so will the guy he goes on a date with.

No matter what my friend says to the date, deep down he believes those bad things about himself and they will show through. The date may not understand why but he will know how my friend feels about himself. It will just show in my friend’s actions, beliefs, and comments.

If my friend were to say to his date I am not hot, I am old, bald, gained weight, etc. The guy would run away. But when my friend says all the great things about himself, the date will only hear those bad words because that is what my friend truly believes about himself.

My friend is judging himself because then he won’t be disappointed or hurt if it doesn’t work out. My friend doesn’t want to see that age is only a number and maturity is so much better and that he has. He doesn’t want to see that losing your hair is a part of life and people really do not care if you do not care. He doesn’t want to see that he has gained weight which has only made him look healthy instead of the too thin he was before. He doesn’t want to see that he has beautiful blue eyes, a caring and loving heart of gold, a dazzling smile and a wicked sense of humor. It is easier for him to believe in the bad things than the good.

So I talked to my friend for awhile about his coming date and how he felt. Finally I asked him to tell me one great thing about himself. He responded, ” I have a big dick.” I said, “Well that is a start…”

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