A friend of mine told me he was moving to LA at the end of the month. I was so excited for him. I told him if he felt that is where he needed to be then good for him. I love new adventures and I am glad he is just going for it. Besides, if he goes and hates it, he can always come back.

He was shocked by my excitement, support and enthusiasm about his move. He had told other people and they always were quick to tell him LA is dirty, full of traffic and so expensive to live. That he would have a hard time finding a job or a place to live. That he should really think about his move before he jumps into it.

He asked me why I was so positive about his move? I said that it was his dream and why wouldn’t I be excited that you are making it a reality. It would be silly for me to give you my opinion on LA when I have never personally been there. I do know TONS of people move to LA to make their dreams of being an actor come true and they all seem to find work doing something and living somewhere so why wouldn’t it be the same for him?

He thanked me for my support and making him feel good about his move. He was excited and was glad he could share it with me.

I think it is important to support people’s dreams. It is never my place to share my opinion on their dream. It is their life and they have to live it. I believe it is better, as a friend, to help them make their dreams into reality. Help them plan, help give them support and let them know they always have the option of changing their mind.

What would our lives be like if we didn’t have our dreams?

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My friend becky sent me this quote. I thought I would share with you:

“Friends are like butt cheeks. Crap comes between them, but they always stick
together.”

 Happy Friday!

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I am there to support my friends through think and thin. I try my best to be a strong shoulder they can lean on and someone that is there just to listen to what they have to say.

Something I love to do is have a friend vention. A friend vention is when you take your friend out to let them vent and get rid of all that unhealthy stress and tension.

Here is one of my favorite ways to release all that built up stress:

You pick up your friend in your car. You get on a long straight of road where you can just drive and drive. You blast your favorite songs together on the iPod, roll down the windows and sing on top of your lungs, badly, to your tunes as you drive down the road.

Trust me, by the end of the drive you both will feel better and probably will be laughing from all the fun and bad singing. Now, you can end the event with some milkshakes or iced chai teas to soothe your singing voice.

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Spending time this weekend with friends got me thinking of my friends from the past. People who were in my life for a time and eventually just faded away. We both played a part in letting the friendship fade but I am still lucky to have had the time I did with them.

Life takes us in different paths and we lose touch with our friends. We no longer work with them, go to school with them or have same likes or dreams anymore. Either way, you still miss them and wonder what they are doing.

I wonder if Kim is still married and what her life is like now. I wonder where Mandy is and what drama is going on in her life. I know Lennart is still Lennart and I just hope he is happy. I think about when I worked at Red Lobster and wonder how Aleks, Heather, Frank, Ryan, and Debbie are doing. I wonder what happened to Fran and Terry. I wonder if Mike is still doing touring shows. I miss Natalia and wonder how her child is and her life. I miss Stacey and wonder if she is still working or staying home with her daughter now. I wonder how Peter’s life turned out with moving back home with his parents. Is he still in the closet or has he come out. I think about my acting days and wonder how Jessica and Dave are doing. I wonder if Vanessa is still married and working in timeshare or has she moved on.

Hopefully one day, I will randomly run into them and get to catch up. Maybe they will even come back and be part of my life. But I can not stay thinking about the past because it is just that, the past. I do not know what the future will bring but I know it will include some of my current friends, new friends and new adventures.

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This past weekend I spend time with my friend Nick who came down for what he called his gay-cation with Lauren, Karen and his boyfriend, Kevin.

We spent the day at Magic Kingdom enjoying the sights. Unfortunately one of the sights of Florida they didn’t want was the wonderful sudden thunderstorms. We got caught many times in the storm’s pouring rain but were lucky to always find an attraction to keep us from getting completely soaked. At one point, we just missed a random downpour by getting in line for “It’s A Small World”. Here is a quick video of us on the ride. Enjoy Justin’s dancing:

The storms allowed us to get exercise running from one side of the park to the other to see if the Jungle Cruise would finally be open. We weren’t able to see the Castle Show due to the weather but were treated to seeing one of the dancer’s back was scarred up from which I hope was only a drunken night fall and not a “Sleeping with the Enemy” type boyfriend episode.

We set up at our “secret” viewing area to get an almost front row sit to the fireworks early in the night. Unfortunately, 20 minutes before the show, we had to move the table quickly under the overhang when the storm poured on us one more time.

The Wishes fireworks were great and Tinkerbell, which we were afraid wouldn’t show because of the weather, flew right above us to end the night in the Disney magical way.

I realized on the way home that the weather didn’t damper our time together. It was the friendship and laughter that kept our day sunny. I am glad to have been able to spend another day with one of my best friends, Nick as well as make new friends from NYC.

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I went to get my haircut yesterday. As I arrived at the salon I noticed a gentleman was paying for his haircut and was about to leave. I opened the door to allow him to leave and for me to walk in. He just stood there and stared at me. He then walked slowly through the door as if he was a fashion model on the catwalk and never said a thank you or nodded as if I didn’t exist. Just in those few minutes I thought this guy is so stuck on himself.

I checked in at the front desk and Lashon came to bring me to her chair. As I sat down, she told me that the guy before me sat down, looked at her and said, “I am very particular about your MY hair!” I asked if it happened to be a guy in the suit who just left. She said yes!

She told me later how he kept bragging about all his houses and trips he takes. That he was wearing nice dress shirts with his initials on the sleeve. She asked me if I ever knew anyone with that. I said yes and they were a jerk too.

Lashon was obviously flustered by this guy and how he treated her. I am sure she was not going into all the details with me about her interactions with him.

When we were done, she walked me up front and the girl at the front desk mentioned that the guy before me was a rude to her. He throw Lashon’s tip at her and told her to put it in the envelope for him. Of course the envelopes are sitting right on the desk. She took the tip and placed it in the envelope and wrote to Lashon from jerk face.

As I was walking to my car, I started thinking about how just the few minutes we all spent with that guy made us dislike him. I wonder if he even knows how he comes off. I assume he acts this way because he thinks it impresses people or maybe it just impresses himself but either way he is not winning over friends.

When I turned the corner to the parking garage, I noticed a car parked on the side of the road with a big yellow bumper sticker on it. It made me laugh and I thought it said exactly what this guy needed to hear:

“Jesus loves you but everyone else thinks you are an asshole.”

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They say a man’s best friend is a dog. So what is a girl’s best friend? Well a gay guy of course!

Gay guys offer girls the best of both worlds. You get to have a man in your life who can serve as your date to that boring work party you have been dreading. He will come over and make sure you look good. He will not embarrass you and he will end up making the party fun. Plus you do not have to worry, he will not be trying to get to second base by the evenings end.

Sure a gay guy can be fun but he also offers you a great friendship. You have a friend who knows what it is like to date men and may have more insight to share with you. He most likely will be a good listening and will have some similar likes as you, besides liking men.

Plus you also get some of the perks from the male gender role. Males tend to be more aggressive so he will push you to live your life and take risks. But, you will not have to worry because he will be there to catch you in case you fall. Hopefully with boxes of Girl Scout cookies, a pint of ice cream and a copy of Grease 2 in hand.

I have been very lucky to be a girl’s best friend because they offer me a lot in return for my friendship. Someone who listens to me, supports me, and makes me laugh! Besides, I need dates to those boring office parties too. Who else am I going to feed drinks to and dare to make out with the IT guy?

I wanted to share some photos of some of my girlfriends through out the years:

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My friend Becky found out a close family friend received the news that she only has 2 weeks to live. She asked me if I was able to know when I would die, would I want to know? I said no. She said she wouldn’t want to know as well. So what would you do if you had only 2 weeks to live. Becky is hoping that she won’t just curl up in a ball and hide. I thought about it and wondered if I found out that I had a limited time left, what would I do? I know I would be shocked and disappointed. I would think about the things I could have done and people I would miss.Then it reminded me, we do only have a limited time here. We feel we will be here forever but we were all born with an expiration date. Hopefully it will be later than sooner but who knows when. Everyone knows I believe you need to live your life but how do you do that?You take the time to plan goals and create a life list. You show gratitude for everything you have including the people in your life. You laugh as loud as you want and love deeply. Make sure to spend all your time on things and people who enlighten and inspire you.Life is too short to wonder what if. You need to make the most of the time you have.What is one thing you could start doing today to start better living your life? Leave me a comment and let me know!

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Over this weekend, my friend Stephanie got in engaged. It is a wonderful story on how she met her fiance and the proposal couldn’t be better. It is great to see her glowing and enjoying the excitement around her engagement.

I know I have asked people this question many times, “How do you know if they are the ONE?” Friends have asked me this same question over the years. We would love someone with a crystal ball to tell us, “YES, they are the one!”

Once we knew that, we would get mad at all their flaws because we would know they were meant for us. We wouldn’t have silly fights with with them and ignore their calls for a day, because we knew they were the one. We would also not doubt our relationship or happiness because we would know, they were the one.

That just isn’t how it works. Relationships take a lot of work. It is about give and take. It is about communication and friendship. It is not about finding someone who youcan put up with their flaws, it is finding someone who knows your flaws and loves you anyway.

So how do you know if they are the one, you just do. If they are the one, they will be worth your commitment and time. You both will give yourselves to make it work because you have each other and that is all that matters.

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Last night I was able to cross an item off my life list, I got to see the Blue Man Group. My friend Robert decided it would be a great way to celebrate his birthday. I loved the idea and had a great time.

The Blue Man Group wasn’t what I expected but it was a fun show. There is a lot of audience interaction and the Blue Man are quite talented. I am glad I was able to see it finally.

 The show also has some social awareness element about our world. They talked about how we go to Internet coffee shops to sit inches from tons of people we never talk to while we communicate on laptops or phones to people who are not even there.

I thought it was a great issue to present in the show and really allow people to self reflect on their daily lives. I know it made me think.

Not only is it a Happy Birthday for Robert but it was a great time at Blue Man Group and another life list item crossed off!!

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