March
15
I am not going to talk about change. By now you should know that change is inevitable and helps you along your journey.
Here is a quote which wraps it up:
When you are through changing, you are through.
~Bruce Barton
I am going to focus on changeS. The “S” is what is important.
When life is not what we expected, we know we need to make a change. That change could be:
- A new job
- A new career
- Go back to school
- End a relationship
- Move to a different city
- Buy a house
- Better diet and exercise
Once we decide on that change, and I know it is not easy, we put it into action and wait for life to get better…
That is the problem. A change doesn’t mean things will get better. It usually requires changeS.
How many? I do not know. It will take your own self reflection to determine this. You already know what needs to change but sometimes we are overwhelmed with the amount of changes needed.
So, how can we make this easier? When you decide you need a change, make sure to couple it with another change. Always commit to two changes at a time.
What two changes should I commit to? I am glad you asked.
When we decide to make a change, it tends to be from the list I mentioned above. Did you notice that all those items have to do with external things? The first thing we always commit to is changing the outside things of life but we forget we have to change the inside things as well.
Example:
I was in a relationship. It was going well but it wasn’t really making me happy. As time went on, I realized it just wasn’t right for me. It was hard to realize this and even harder to make the choice to end it. I was in love.
Weeks after, I questioned if I had made the right choice but life started to get better. I was happier!
In time, I met someone else. It was great and we started dating. It was only weeks into the relationship when it was already almost exactly like the one I ended. I wasn’t with the same guy? How could this be? Everything was different. Well, not everything…
I was still the same. I had not changed.
We change the external by ending the relationship but forget to change the internal. Remember in a relationship, it takes two to tango. 
What did you bring to the relationship that made you unhappy? What role did you play? What could you change to make things different the next time?
There are so many different views you can take on each situation and what changes you want to make. Just remember when you make a change couple it with something internally you will change as well.
You might just be surprised of the results.
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