As most of you know, I have been writing articles for Gay.com for a long time. I just posted a new one about celebrating pride which I told the story of my friend “Randy”.  Check it out here!

I asked “Randy” (I picked this name because when I met him he kept telling me how he thought he looked like Randy Harrison from Queer as Folk. He doesn’t. ) if he would mind if I would share our story. I promised I would leave out his bitchy comments and just tell the sweet story of how we met and why he went to Gay Days in Orlando. He agreed and thought it would be a great story about pride. He has always loved pride events and he still participates in many of them.

It has been many years since I met him and life has moved on a lot since then. The same year I met him it was only months later his father passes away. “Randy” then moved to a bigger city and has been in a LTR for over 4 years. Life goes on…

When the article posted, I told “Randy” check it out! This morning he calls me. He is upset about how many negative comments are written about me and about the story. He doesn’t understand why people would be so mean about a simple story.Why they would say such mean things about his friend they do not even know.

I told him he needs to see past the negative comments to the positive ones. Those are the ones that count. Those are the people the story made a difference to. Those are the people who the article was written for.

When I write these articles, I know I am going to get tons of negative comments. I know the gay community well. It is OK. That is the whole point of these articles. As long as they are talking about it…

The articles are all about getting a conversation stated. Just like this blog, it is about connecting with people I might not have the chance to reach if it wasn’t for this forum. Some of the entries you love, so you do not. It is all about the conversation.

If I let all the negative comments get to me, I would have given up a long time ago. When I was in school, I was bullied and picked on and called a fag. If I let them get to me I would have never come out and never love the life I have now. It is just sad that now the negative comments come from the same community I am apart of but where do you think they learned these bad habits? I am sure they were picked on as well. It is their chance to give it back.

I am not saying it is OK to be negative. I think it is a waste of time and energy but, they have a right to say what they want BUT it doesn’t mean I  listen. There are so many more positive comments on the articles and on my blog anyway. Those are truly what counts. I am not trying to get the world to love me. I just want to make a few people think and mostly laugh.

So as long as they keep talking about the articles and my blog, I will keep writing.

I think “Randy” summed it up best when he quoted Britney Spears…

“Love me, hate me, say what you want about me but all of the boys and all of the girls…”

PS. “Randy” I think I might have extended your fame to a whole 2 minutes with this. ENJOY IT!

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