I know many of you say the famous Evolution of Dance video on YouTube. It was a wonderful video and can keep you laughing for hours. Well, Jud Laipply created that video and he is a great motivational speaker. he has just released a part time and I was lucky enough to join him in the dance…

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How would you live your life if your fears did not hold you back?

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Every morning I am reminded that the hair on my head is slowing dropping in numbers. When I look down after I turn off the shower or after I dry my hair the sink, I notice tons of hair just laying there and saying good bye from my head.

I written before about me losing my hair and everyone should know it is something I am insecure about. Do I have a choice? Not really. It is just part of life and my life is not going to include a full head of hair. Sure I can get a wig but do I really want all that drama? NO! So I have learned to accept my fate.

Every morning though, I catch myself mourning the loss when I look down. This week I had to put an end to it. It is a waste of time and it only makes each day worse. You see my perspective is that I am losing my hair and it something to be sad about. Not a great way to start the day. So instead I remind myself I still have my great smile.

It is a much greater start to the day in a perspective of gratitude instead of loss. Anytime I find myself wanting to be sad about it, I look in the mirror and smile. I remind myself that I am grateful to be able to smile, be happy and enjoy my white teeth.

I am not going to waste my time thinking about what is gone but spend my time thinking about what I have.

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My friend and I got into a heated debate about straight men who have sex with gay guys. He insists they are just gay and not wanting to admit it. Where I believe they are just curious and there is nothing wrong with that.

I think sometimes we get to hung up on labels. We want to put everyone into their own special box so we have them figured out. Of course, that is not how life works. We are all unique and we need to be able to celebrate this instead of being trapped in a someone’s labeled box.

Just because a straight guy messing around with a gay man doesn’t make him gay. Just because you once put furry handcuffs on your partner doesn’t mean you are both into bondage scene now. I think we should be allowed to do what we want with our lives and don’t have to answer to others. It is out life, and in this case sex life, and we should be able to get our needs met however we want.

My friend admitted it confuses him when straight men sleep with gay guys because he wouldn’t be able to seperate his feelings. I told him not to sleep with straight guys then.

Isn’t time we stop worrying about who is sleeping with who and what that makes them, and just spend our time worrying about ourselves?

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Justin annoys the shit out of me. Oh it is so true! He drives me insane. 

Whenever I have nothing to do, he doesn’t want to be bothered by me. He wants me to sit quietly and watch a movie BUT the moment I need to be doing something, he wants my attention. 

He says it is because he misses me. He comes in when I am trying to write and insists on holding my hand to give it a kiss, give me a smile and then disappear. 

While the Oscars were on, I was in the bedroom trying to write and he had to come visit me at every commercial to give me a kiss, hold my hand, or just pet my head. 

IT WAS DRIVING ME INSANE!! 

Then I thought what it would be like if he wasn’t there. What if I was left alone to just do what I wanted? What if there was no one who missed me even though I was only in the next room?

Yes he annoys me but I wouldn’t have it any other way. He reminds me that I am lucky enough to have someone in my life to annoy me. PLUS, I know of I have a lifetime to annoy him back in return.

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Why is it so hard to do something for yourself when you know for a fact it is good for you?

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Even during these rough times, you maybe thankful you have a job but it doesn’t mean you still won’t want to kill them for something they say or do.

Here my suggestions on how not to kill your boss:

Do not take it personal – Just because they are bitter, mean, having a bad day or all of these at once doesn’t mean it has to ruin your day.

Remember you are in control – Sometimes we forget that we are adults and are in control of what we do and what we do not do. Just because the boss says do it, doesn’t mean we will. We have a choice.

It is not worth it – When they make their catty remarks or backstab you in a meeting, you do not need to fight back. Fighting back places you in war. When they are the only one in the battle, everyone sees them for who they are.

Don’t debate – When the boss tells you what their perception of things are or how they feel, you do not need to prove your side. This is their view and you have your own. Until they can show you that is not just based on perception or feelings, then their argument doesn’t work. No one has ever been fired on perception or feelings.

Don’t kiss ass – Kissing ass makes you one thing, an ass kisser. You should treat everyone the same regardless if it is a team member, employee, customer or your boss. Sure you will like more than others and that is fine. But there is no need to kiss ass. Your performance should be enough to impress.

You do not have to like them – You really do not have to like your boss. I hope you respect them but that comes from the boss giving your respect in return. We all have to work together but you never have to be best friends with your boss or go to lunch with them.

I hope these few hints will help you survive another day at work!

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When I was shopping this week, I was very caught up in all the things I was looking for. Trying to keep my list straight in my head so I would not forget anything. I was so busy thinking, I did not notice the older woman standing next to me in the aisle.

As I continued to look, she asked me if these cup holders would work for soda. I answered that I thought so and that they looked made for soda cans. A few minutes a later she asked me if I thought this was going to make her grandson happy if she got him this game. I answered that I thought it looked fun and I am sure he will like anything she got him. I then mentioned that they were on sale buy one get one free when she bursted out laughing in the middle of my sentence. I didn’t know what to say but just continued on my shopping. It wasn’t until the older woman said, “Billy I need you to listen to me or you are not getting ice cream,” that I realized she wasn’t talking to me…

She wasn’t talking to anyone…no one was there…

I immediately felt so sad for her. She must be so alone that she made up someone to talk to while she shopped. I thought to myself how I hope that is never me.

Later in the day, I was thinking about the older woman again and realized maybe I did not need to feel sorry for her. Maybe she is having the time of her life. Maybe she doesn’t even know she is alone and these are the best conversations she has ever.

I think it is easy to see someone and judge their life because of our own personal fears. Sometimes we just need to let others live their lives as we live our own.

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On Monday, a group of my friends and I did a gift exchange. It was a simple plan. You drew a name of one of us and you were our secret Valentine. You were only allowed to spend 5 dollars BUT because we were doing it on Monday, you could take advantage of all the Valentine’s day sales!

We gathered together for a light breakfast and talked about our weekends and our plans. We then exchanged our gifts and laughed at the wonderful things we were able to find and it helped bring joy to the beginning of the week.

We had so much fun we are thinking about trying to do something for most of the major holidays.

It did not cost us a lot but we got to spend time together laughing, sharing and enjoying the holidays. We forget sometimes to take the time to chat with friends and celebrate life.

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Valentine’s is a quick day that comes and goes. You spend a dinner with your loved one, hand them a card and wake up the next day to move on. 

This year I had planned a low key event for Justin and I. It wasn’t a big deal. Just the two of us going to see a movie and then have lunch at the restaurant we met. Simple and easy. 

Justin texted me a day later and said how about we have dinner at this place I have been dying to try at a local hotel. I thought it was a cleaver idea. We headed down there to celebrate out Valentine’s and I mentioned how I thought about booking a room there but didn’t because it was too much. We did not need to go overboard for this day.

We had a great dinner and as we were heading out, Justin told me it was time to check in. HE had booked us a room there as a surprise. How sweet is that? It was a great surprise and really made the weekend great!

Well here it is Monday and I am feeling the hangover. It was the rush of living life. I am guilty of not always enjoying life. I spend most of my time saving for experiences in the future which never get here. I am missing out enjoying the present. Justin knows this and that is why he booked the room so we could live life now. 

So after my wonderful weekend, the best present I receive was just that “the present”. Living in the present is the best thing you can do to live your life out loud!

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