This is week ten in my personal “If… Project” in which I answer questions from the book “If… (Questions for the Game of Life)”

There are 125 pages of this book, each with four questions. I plan to take one page each week and answer the questions as thoroughly and honestly as I am able. In addition, I invite you to answer the questions along with me, whether it be in the comments section, your own personal blog, or just within your own thoughts.

Perhaps in doing so, we will get to know each other better, but even more importantly, get to know ourselves better.

This week’s questions:

If you were to be stranded forever on a desert island with one platonic friend only, in whose company would you want to spend the rest of your days?

This horrible because I would be sticking them on the island trapped with me. I think I would choose Becky. We would not know a lot to do to survive but we would keep the days fun and laugh a lot. Becky would also be easier to live with on the island. We get along well and have been in a bad working situation but we survived together so I know we could get through the island life as well.

I just hope we don’t run into any snakes…

If you had to live the rest of your life in a place that you have never lived in before, where would you live?

I do not know where I would select. I am thinking Tampa because it would still be close to home but it would be a whole new town and experience. It would be nice to live by the ocean.

Part of me would love to go to NYC or LA but I do not know which town I would enjoy the best. I would have to visit each and go from there. It would be interesting to live in such huge cities. I also have friends in both.

If you could keep only one article of clothing you currently own and the rest were to be thrown out, what would you keep?

I realize I am not attached to any of my clothes. I can not think of anything that I couldn’t live without. I have a favorite tshirt that I never wear but had since I was 16.

It is a t shirt I bought at the first retail store I worked at as my first job. I have it because I was wearing the night I almost died and I made it. It reminds me of where I have been and reminds me to live my life. So I will pick that shirt.

If you had to lose one of your five senses, which would you give up?

WOW. This is a hard one. After thinking about it hard, I would select taste. I figure this way I would be able to eat so much better. It would reduce a lot of my cravings because I wouldn’t even get to taste the bad food. My health would be so much better.

Of course, it could drive me insane because what if I have the cravings and can not satisfy them because there is no taste!! I guess I will not know until it happens.

Those are my answers to this week’s questions. What are yours?

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A friend of mine was talking to me about a weird situation he is in right now.

He has been taking this great dance class every week. He enjoys the class for the fitness but also for all the fun he has learning the new dance routines. I know he loves this class because he mentions it a lot and he has yet to miss a session.

Currently the instructor has taken an interest in him beyond his dance moves. The instructor has decided to start flirting with him by giving him a nickname based on his penis. Yes, his penis. The instructor has never seen his penis but has assumed some details about it and gave him a nickname based on this.

My friend is in a relationship is not interested in the instructor what so ever. It is making him feel insecure because he feels the instructor is spending his time checking him out instead of simply teaching the class he enjoyed so much.

At this point and time, he is thinking of quitting the class because of the inappropriate behavior of the instructor. I, of course, encouraged him to confront the instructor but as I know, my friend is not best with confrontation.

Is it right for a person to make you feel so bad with their comments that you stop doing something you love?

It would be easy if life did put us in these situations but it happens. I think you just need to decide when it is time to speak up and take a stance and when it is just best to remove yourself from this situation.

I can not tell my friend what to do. He will have to trust himself and make the best choice. Whatever happens, I am here for my friend. PLUS I have a baseball bat which would love to have some contact with this instructor’s penis.

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“Heterosexuality is not normal, it’s just common”

Dorothy Parker

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I purchased American Idol Encore game for my wii. It is a karaoke game where you sing songs and see if you can be the next American Idol. Justin and I play it at home and I sing my heart out. Of course I can not sing well but I do not care it is all about fun. 

My friends love the game and we sing in front of each other. They are always shy at first but I tell them to have fun. Who cares! We are friends and just should have fun. Why are we so scared to sing in front of our friends? Is it because we are insecure or are we afraid to be judged?

Many of my friends tell me it is hard to sing in front of others. They don’t see me posting a video of myself singing on my blog…

Well here you go. Here is a short video of me singing to one of my favorite songs from the American Idol Encore game. I made it short so you wouldn’t have to suffer through too much of my singing but I want you to see that I am living life out loud. Are you? 

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A lot of my friends have been talking about weddings lately. One of my friends is planning her wedding right now while two friends of mine just got married in New Orleans. So Let’s dream a little together. Right now gay marriage is not legal but it doesn’t mean I can’t think what it would be like to have a wedding of my own.

Part of me would want the magical fairytale wedding. A great location with tons of guests. Formal dress and a wonderful reception decorated with white calla lilies and gardenias. I would love to be in a nice black and white tux looking sharp while the the sun sets outside the windows of the reception hall.

The other part of me would love to just do it up in Vegas. Invite everyone I know just to have a good time on the Vegas strip. Get married in a cheezy chapel and then head off with your friends and family in a limos to have a fun dinner and night on the town.

I guess the details are not that important as who you marry. It is really about finding love and celebrating the public commitment you have for each other, forever. And yes, I believe it can last forever.

I wonder how many of you would love to be married right now (straight or gay) and how many of you are married and would do it again.  What would it be like?

Remember to always:

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People come and go in your life all the time. It is hard with work, home, families, education and just plain responsibilities to keep in touch with everyone. A lot of times we don’t expect it but we let people go. People who came into ourselves and made it better. People who influenced who were are today but just lost touch with.

Last night I had a dream about one of my past leaders, Kevin Beaver. He taught me a lot about leadership. I know I normally talk about all the bad experiences I had because they are funny and remind us how crazy people can be. But where did I learn the good leadership qualities? Kevin was one of those leaders who taught me well.

He was young and ambitious. He showed me that it was OK to lead with your head and heart. He was so thoughtful with what he did knowing the logical choices behind his actions. He was full of energy, like me, and wasn’t afraid to be funny or have fun at work. He taught me that you need to know your value and not be afraid to stand up for yourself because if you truly deserve it, you would get it.

He was not only my leader, mentor but he was my friend. He helped me become the leader I am today. He helped me to not doubt who I was but just be who I am.

This morning I thought it was sad that we lose touch. I like to keep positive and driven people around me. It is always nice to have a strong inner circle of people you trust who support each other. Well, it is 2008 so I decided it was time to be a Google detective and find Mr Beaver. Guess what? I did! I dropped him an email and it was no longer valid. I am not giving up yet.

I believe it is never too late to reconnect with someone you lost in your life. If they are truly meant to remain apart of it, you will find a way to come back together.

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This is week nine in Nick’s and I’s personal “If… Project” in which we answer questions from the book “If… (Questions for the Game of Life)”

There are 125 pages of this book, each with four questions. I plan to take one page each week and answer the questions as thoroughly and honestly as I am able. In addition, I invite you to answer the questions along with me, whether it be in the comments section, your own personal blog, or just within your own thoughts.

Perhaps in doing so, we will get to know each other better, but even more importantly, get to know ourselves better.

This week’s questions:

If you could own one painting from any collection in the world but were not allowed to sell it, which work of art would you select?

Oh I know the exact painting. I have always loved this painting and was so excited whenever in college we get this period of time because I knew they would talk about it.

Botticelli’s Birth of Venus.

I just love this painting. I do not know what it is but it is so beautiful to me. I can not take my eyes off of it. This is one of those works of art that will be remembered forever. It is going to be even better now that I own it and it will be in my living room. LOL

If you could have chosen your own first name, other than your current one, what would it be?

I like Michael and I am glad that is my name. BUT, I would have loved to been Alex. I have always thought that was a cool name. I am kind of a fan of Preston now. Such a distinguished name. I think this is the name my friend Steph was thinking about for one of her sons someday.

If you could have seduced one person that you knew in your lifetime (but didn’t), who would you select?

I can not think of someone that I missed out on. I really think I flirted with the people I wanted. I really can not think of of anyone. It took me a few hours of thinking to realize either I was very picky with the guys I liked or I was just a slut.

If you were instantly able to play one musical instrument perfectly that you never have played before, what would it be?

I am going to say the guitar. The reason is everyone in my family plays it except me. I have never been musically inclined. I think it would be great to be able to play with them or with other people. It is also a good instrument because you can have it in your room and not take up a lot of space. Piano is nice but where would you keep one? Keyboards are not the same. If you are going to play piano you need to go all out and have the giant black shiny grand piano.

Those are my answers to this week’s questions. What are yours?

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