A lot of clients mention how they lose their creative side to their lives. I think as we get older we get so busy with life that we forget to take time out just to have fun, be creative and dream.

 There are tons of activities you can do to keep yourself being creative. One of my best is a creative journal. It is tons of random categories for you to write about. You simply pick a page and just write about whatever topic is on the page. You get to have fun as well as learn more about yourself.

 I have decided to share the topics with you and what I wrote about. I will post my first one tomorrow.

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You can learn a lot from a different perspective. I like to learn simple lessons from my Cat, Piper. Piper does things that are so simply and reminds how life can be so easy if we only change our perspective on how we are looking at things.

 One thing I learned from Piper is how to get attention. Sometimes when you need attention, if you meow loud and long enough people will take notice.

 Well I hope you won’t walk around meowing but it shows us a simple way to get our needs met, ask for it. When Piper wants attention she rubs up on your legs and meows and meows until you pay attention. You know what she wants because she tells you.

 How many times do you want someone to hug you or call you but we never tell them, instead we just hope they can read our minds and just do it. Wouldn’t it just be easier to say what you want? How are people supposed to know what you want if you don’t tell them. People are not mind readers so I hope you will start moving forward and stop being afraid to tell people what you want so you can get your needs met.  

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I love to read. I spend a lot of time shopping at Barnes and Noble for the next best find. I tend to always read fun books about changing your life. Are you surprised? I am a life coach.

What I realize is that sometimes people think a book will change their life. They feel if they read it, highlight in it, make notes, re-read it, insist friends read it so they can talk about it and then re-read it again that their life will just change.

I am sorry to say, this is not how it happens. Reading books gives us the information but DOING the information we learned is what changes our lives. Like they say, “Knowing is half the battle…” This is the truth. Applying it to our lives through practice and follow through is the most important part.

It would be like signing up for the gym and thinking you now will have a summer built body. Having the gym membership is half the battle, the hard part is actually going, building a routine and putting the work into ourselves.

So keep on reading with me but remember to put some action into it.

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I remember about 6 years ago when my friend Robert called me up Thursday evening and told me to get dressed we were going out to Pleasure Island. I went into a panic right away and immediately said back, “I am sorry. I can not go. I have nothing to wear.”

 Nothing to wear? I had a closet full of clothes. Even clothes that still had the tags on but I thought I had nothing to wear. Nothing to wear because I wanted people to like me. I wanted to impress people and the right outfit was needed so this could happen. With such short notice, I could spend time shopping for it, buying it and then spending hours deciding if I really liked it (which meant would other people like it).

Robert responded to my nothing to wear statement bluntly as he always does, “Michael. We do not need to impress the people there. They need to impress us.”

 With this statement, my whole perspective was changed. I had been spending my life planning what to wear to impress people who I didn’t even know. I never thought about what I wanted from them. I never thought that no matter how much I impress them, I may not like THEM. That simply being me was impressive enough. Enough for the people I would want in my life. Why would I want people who only liked me for my clothes? I wanted more than that.

I dressed so quickly that night, jumped in the car and headed out. It was one of the best nights I had out because I was just me. And the best part of it all was that people took more noticed of me than ever before because I was real.

 So ask yourself, what do you do tryingto impress people when really all you need to do is be yourself? What could you stop doing now that would free yourself to be you?

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I love this quote and wanted to share it with you:

 “Time is a gift, given to you, given to give you the time you need, the time you need to have the time of your life.”

 ~ The Phatom Tollbooth

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I love this commercial and I think it is a very simple way of seeing how you can make a difference in someone’s life.

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I am teaching this class this week based on the John Maxwell’s 21 Laws of Leadership. One of my favorite laws is the Law of Magnetism.

Simply it means, you can only attract the people you want (skills, abilities, values, etc) if you possess the same qualities yourself.

This is very powerful way of stop blaming others for failed relationships, friendships, employees etc and realize that you are in control of your life and you have the power to make a change.

I have a friend who tells me that when he goes out to a club, no one talks to him. I asked him, “Do you talk to people?” and he says no. Why does he expect people to talk to him if he is not willing to talk to them. You get what you attract. If he went to the club, smiled and tried to make conversation with others, he would find people to talk to. People would see he is open and want to talk to him. Instead of how he comes in the club already closed down and knowing no one will talk to him.

So you attract what you are. What could you achieve if you only worked on yourself and stopped wishing others would change?

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I love horror movies. I love to go to the dark movie theater, cover my ears because the music is scaring me and wait to see what jumps out next to scare me.

Around this time of year they release Horrorfest - 8 Films to Die For. They show 8 films which are on limited release for a whole weekend. I get to spend the whole day just watching movie after movie.

I started to think, what is it about the horror movies I like so much. I do not like gore or torture. I do not like to watch people die. I do not really believe a lot of these stories could even really happen. But, I always find myself paying my 10 bucks to see another one.

It is an escape. I get to spend a hour and half caught up in a movie and release stress every time I get scared and jump. I am not thinking about work, my to do list, my fears, etc. I am sitting there totally engaged in the movie. When I leave, I feel free, relaxed and life doesn’t seem so bad because I do not have an escaped mental patient trying to kill me outside my broke down car in the snow.

Everyone needs a healthy escape from life. Maybe even a few. Something that just allows you to be caught up in something else. No stress, no worries, no to do lists. Just you and the activity which sets you free for a period of time.

What is your personal escape?

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I love this quote:

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

Doesn’t this completely give you a different prospective on life?

Instead of spending your life searching, you can spend your life creating.

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I tend to always be in a good mood. When you ask me how my day is I always respond with good or great. I truly feel that way. I always feel happy and I smile a lot.

People ask me how can I be like that and I never really knew why. Then after thinking about it, I realized it is all about my choice. I choose to be happy. I choose to have a positive attitude.

You have the choice to decide what you let in and what you let out. You have a choice to have a good day, or a GREAT day. You have a choice to look at the world for all that is wrong or look at the world for all the great things you get.

I do not know why you would choose to have a bad attitude. Can you think of a reason?

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